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Today was supposed to be one of the utmost productive days of the week.
Why? How do I know this? You might ask
Well, because I planned to have the most productive day ever.
First off, it’s Wednesday which means I clean the entire apartment, I have my regular morning routine, etc, but I was adding one new additional task to my list which was recipe development.
I have a food blog, and I like to select one day out of the week where I knock 4–5 recipes out of the park. That day was supposed to be today.
On Tuesday night, I was excited. I went to bed at a decent time, I had a great dinner, I set myself up for success for the following morning.
My alarm woke me up at 6 on the dot. I jumped out of bed, feeling energetic and ready to take on the day!
Then I realized something. It was 6. I have been trying to make it a habit to wake up every morning around 5 to get an early writing session in. I must have turned the alarm off.
I was upset, but I reminded myself that I was going to have an incredibly productive day and I would resume my morning writing sessions the following morning. No excuses.
I had planned to put my workout off because it was supposed to get really warm later on, so I figured I would get some sun if I went for a run instead of my usual training session at home. No biggie, I would just get ahead on my cleaning.
Except, the sun never came out, so I decided to workout at home, I turned on Youtube looking for some music when instead I found a new stretching and mobility workout by one of my favorite fitness influencers. I guess I could do this… I told myself. It’s only for 10 minutes.
My usual 30–45-minute workout turned into almost two hours because I got too engrossed in stretching, also Youtube, and then I realized I also wanted to bike on my stationary bike.
I was upset with myself for not being more disciplined.
I took a quick shower, stubbed my toe while I was trying to get dressed as fast as possible, and hurried to the kitchen.
My planned cooking and baking session didn’t start till 11 AM, which according to my planner is extremely late.
I created 4 recipes. Only 1 of them turned out okay.
Needless to say, I was angry.
You might be wondering why I am telling you my morning shenanigans. I want to note that I am the type of person who hates when things don’t go to plan.
I am always early, I am always done with my tasks in advance, and I almost never botch a recipe. This morning, I botched 3. I was upset with myself for wasting time and wasting ingredients.
Not only did I not have a total of 4 new amazing recipes for my blog, but I had also slept in that morning and skipped out on my early morning writing session.
It was 2 PM, I still had a long to-do list, I felt irritable, frustrated, and hungry since none of my recipes had worked out and I usually snack on them.
I complained about my problems to my boyfriend and snapped at him for not somehow magically making my morning better. Then, I went and sulked on the balcony.
Marinating in my own self-pity. I felt even worst for snapping at someone who didn’t have anything to do with my problems.
I said to myself, I could either let this day go to shit… or I could change my attitude.
When faced with those two choices, one typically opts for the first option.
When I say one, I mean myself. However, I am in the midst of creating new and positive habits. So, I did go for option #2.
These are some helpful tips for when and if you ever find yourself in this position. Trust me, choosing option #1 might be easier, but you’ll feel like crap. Choose to change your attitude. That way, you can salvage your day, and go to bed with a peaceful mind.
Take a walk
This might sound silly, or perhaps you’re familiar with this kind of tip. Taking yourself out of a negative situation or environment and getting some fresh air really does calm you down. It also allows you to clear your head and re-assess.
I took a walk after my sulking session. It doesn’t have to be very long, I walked about a mile, I saw some homeless people, realized botching a few new recipes wasn’t the worst thing in the world, and went home.
In all honesty, when I did come home, I saw my failed attempt at gluten-free oatmeal raisin cookies, and I got upset all over again. I remembered my long list of things I still needed to get done, and at that moment, the last thing I wanted to do was work. I moved on to my second tip to myself.
Take a shower
For me, taking a shower makes me feel better almost instantly. It gives me this, “it’s a brand new day,” vibe. I think it’s because I always shower right after my workout in the morning and it’s my way of telling myself, “okay, it’s time to take on the world.”
So, I took another shower. A cold one. I took my time. I stood, naked with the water hitting my scalp, lost in my head.
I got out, dried off, and put on a fresh pair of clothes.
I felt a little better.
Do something that brings you joy
I ticked my list off, I had taken a walk, I’d taken a shower, I made some coffee, I chugged my coffee, I made another.
I still felt slightly glum. Better than before though, that’s for sure.
That’s a start, my friends.
I stared at those oatmeal raisin cookies, I stared at my laptop. I decided I wanted to do something that was out of my schedule.
I grabbed a book, and not a non-fiction self-help book… I chose a fun, fiction book that I had been wanting to read for SO long. I perched myself in a chair on the balcony, coffee on the table, and I read for a solid two hours.
It was magical.
“You can never get a cup of tea large enough or a book long enough to suit me.” — C.S Lewis
Reading brings me unexplainable joy, and sometimes I think it is imperative to go back to your roots and do what brings you true fulfillment.
Drop the social media, drop your to-do list, drop the TV remote. Read a book. Allow your mind to escape.
Then… check back in with yourself.
Two hours of sitting in the sun and reading a book, made me feel significantly better. Try it, perhaps you will be surprised by the results.
You don’t have to read if that’s not your cup of tea. Do what you enjoy.
- listen to an audible book
- listen to some music
- create a mood board
- watch some funny videos
Just do what makes you feel good.
Simplify your to-do list
Listen, the day is half gone, and while I understand you feel off-schedule, you can still accomplish a few set of tasks.
Go through your list, and simplify it. Try to figure out what you can get done in the moment, what you can get done the next day, and what absolutely needs to get done today so you could complete it before you go to bed.
At the end of the day…
Don’t be too hard on yourself. There will be days where your day doesn’t go as planned, there will be times you screw something up, there will be times when something unexpected pops up into your schedule and demands your attention.
Having a negative attitude sucks the energy out of you.
It drains you and makes you feel like you’re not good enough and like you’re not capable enough. Fight that, fight it hard and choose joy, choose positivity, and choose to be indifferent towards the things you cannot change.
Learn to be indifferent about the things that don’t make a difference.
Tomorrow is a new day, and when faced with a decision to sulk or choose to adjust your attitude. Pick the second option.