These determine your future
We all reach points in our lives where our mental toughness is tested. Some of us embrace it, others might fear it and try their best to avoid it.
The people who choose to embrace it are kind of like rockstars. When they see problems, they consider them as challenges to overcome and learn from. Meanwhile, other individuals will see problems as impenetrable barriers that they can’t deal with.
When Thomas Edison’s factory burned to the ground in 1914, destroying one-of-a-kind prototypes and causing over $23 million in damage, Edison replied with:
“Thank goodness all our mistakes were burned up. Now we can start fresh again.”
Edison’s reaction is essentially the epitome of mental toughness — seeing an opportunity and taking action when things were going downhill.
I want to share 5 tips you can utilize to improve your mental toughness. In fact, these tips are actually strategies that you can start using today.
#1. DO get rid of toxicity in your life
If it isn’t contributing to your happiness, your goals, or your bank account, you don’t have time for it. Cut it out of your life.
Have you ever heard of the 5 by 5 rule? It goes like this:
“If it’s not going to matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes being upset about it.”
This is the attitude you need to have as a mentally tough individual.
How often do you allow negativity to alter the course of your day?
How often do you allow negative relationships to impact your mood?
How many things are you currently doing in your life, not because of desire but out of obligation?
When your list of obligations starts to get longer than the list of desires, that’s when you know you have hit a rut.
Stop doing the things that don’t bring you fulfillment.
If you’re constantly spending more time analyzing the problems in your life, you need to start asking yourself what is missing? What is lacking?
Once you are able to identify that, figure out what is contributing to your happiness, and what is taking away from it.
You don’t need to add more things to your life to feel fulfilled.
Instead, you need to subtract the things that are taking up precious space and time that are in fact not benefiting you in any way.
#2. DON’T feel selfish for taking care of yourself
Taking care of yourself is in fact the best way to ensure you’re taking care of everyone else who counts on you.
You need to stop falling into the guilt trap that you owe everyone else more than you owe yourself.
You are worthy of more than what you give to yourself.
While it is important to take care of others, it’s equally just as important — if not more — to take care of yourself and invest in yourself. The better you are, the better you can help others.
#3. DO learn to say no
Why do people think it’s rude to say no to others?
Think about the number of times you have been rejected in your life. Those people who rejected you probably didn’t think twice before doing it.
Having the ability to know when you should and shouldn’t say no is essential to succeeding in life because the closer and closer you get to reaching your goals, the more you’re going to need to commit yourself to none other than YOU.
Learn to say no and be okay with it. The people who truly care about you will understand when you choose work over grabbing drinks.
#4. DON’T overthink
Overthinking can be summed up into one simple sentence.
Overthinking is the art of creating nonexistent problems.
How often have you caught yourself creating a scenario in your head that actually never happened?
Have you ever spent hours debating with yourself on whether or not you should go for something that you’re truly passionate about? What stopped you from going all in?
Was it yourself? Was it the problems you created in your head?
The precious time you waste overthinking is time someone else is spending working on creating something incredible.
Overthinking is the culprit of dying dreams.
#5. Do keep pushing. You don’t have to love every second of the journey, but you do need to keep going
The #1 reason people quit their work too soon is because it stops being ‘fun’ and they give up. They get discouraged and quit because it’s not easy, it’s not comfortable, and they realize it’s not always sunshine and rainbows, and they don’t actually love every minute of it.
The problem is, they think that they don’t love the work but in reality, they just don’t love the problems. They don’t love the roadblocks.
Take writing for instance, do you love every single aspect of it? From reading, to coming up with ideas, to jotting down notes, writing the article or novel, to editing, to editing again and again?
Can you truly tell me you love combing through every comma, period, etc?
I’ll be honest with you, while I love the process of creating ideas and writing, I don’t enjoy editing. It’s just not my thing. I’m known to put unnecessary commas and exclamation marks where they don’t belong, and it’s okay because that is why we have editors.
The goal is not to find something that you love every single second of, because even when you do find your true calling, you will have days where you’d rather flop down on the couch and eat a sandwich and not think twice about your responsibilities, or passions.
The goal is to find something you love, and do what you can.
Get the results, and ask for help along the way.