It’s time to stop asking yourself, “Does he really love me?”
As women, I’m convinced that we overanalyze and overthink our relationships so much so that we inevitably convince ourselves that our partners don’t love us to the extent that they truly do.
I came to this conclusion fairly recently, but the makings of this topic came to mind about a year ago when my partner and I visited his parents in Chicago for the holidays.
In short, it ended terribly, and I discovered that his mother loathes me. …
It’s not you, it’s him
Unless you’re a mind reader (in which case — can we be friends?), it’s almost impossible to understand how someone really feels about you. Unless they’re ultra-communicative, which let’s face it — is also almost impossible for some people.
This is especially true when it comes to figuring out how a guy feels towards you. Men typically tend to suppress their emotions because of societal standards, which can make dating even more challenging to navigate.
When I first started getting to know my partner, I had little to no idea how he felt about me. I was the one who communicated my feelings and thoughts on a daily basis — and he was always the one who shut down and couldn’t get a word out. …
It’s not all about the $$$
Abs, great smile, he’s definitely got to be loaded (obviously), obsessed with me (in a healthy way, duh), and nice eyes.
Did I cover it?
I’m only kidding; I will admit, though, I’ve always had a thing for a guy with a great smile; I mean, if I’m going to wake up to you and talk to you all the time, I’d like to at least look at a pretty picture.
All jokes aside, though, everybody has a different perspective on the qualities they find most attractive in a man. …
Learn to be more productive and produce results every day.
While some people are obsessed with normal day-to-day activities, sports, friends, shopping — I’ve always been obsessed with productivity.
It all started when I realized I strongly disliked my life — I had little to no motivation to do anything. I had no goals, no plans; life felt pointless.
I started deep-diving into the world of entrepreneurship. I craved escaping my 9–5, living a life on my own terms, and doing the things that truly make me feel good.
Fast forward to now; I live in Los Angeles, I set my own schedule, I wake up every morning motivated and driven to work and produce results. …
Structure has never felt so good.
My productivity this week has been off the rails.
I’m not even joking. I’ve written 6 articles, read 2 books, completed 4 workouts (2 more to go), went on 3 (10k step) walks, made healthy lunches every day, drank close to a gallon of water every day, and managed to see the sunset every evening.
How? Because I found a system that works and amplifies my productivity daily and provides me with the structure that I need to have the perfect work-life balance.
All it takes is learning a little bit of time blocking.
Definition: Timeblocking or time blocking is a productivity technique for personal time management where a period of time — typically a day or week — is divided into smaller segments or blocks for specific tasks or to-dos. It integrates the function of a calendar with that of a to-do list. …
And how you can start resolving the issues.
All we ever do is fight with each other.
This thought haunted me for months. It felt like every morning; we would wake up, have coffee, chat, then suddenly, we’re bickering over the smallest of things.
“Couples that are happy with one another shouldn’t fight,” I told myself. The other part reminded me that fighting is healthy; it means you care about the relationship.
I was self-aware enough to know that I’m not the easiest person to get along with; I never struggled to voice my opinion, even if it ended up hurting someone.
After basically being forced to spend every waking minute with one another, I decided to approach the situation with a fresh pair of eyes. I asked for advice, I researched, read, and while I’m not saying our relationship is perfect now, it’s definitely improved. …
Are you being loved, or are you being manipulated?
“He’s suffocating me.”
The other day I had a conversation with someone very close to me. Let’s call her Miranda. Miranda has been in a serious relationship with a man (we’ll call Bob) for 6 years. They split up a few times, but it was only for a short period of time.
Miranda has 3 kids, one of whom lives in another state but helps out whenever she can. Her other two children are in elementary school. …
Start utilizing your free time efficiently.
How do you spend your free time?
Do you watch reruns of Friends? The Office? Maybe video games are your thing?
I’m on the Friends train. I could binge-watch the show every day, without fail. And binge-watch I did, for months. I rewatched Friends, Game of Thrones, Dexter, How To Get Away With Murder — you get it.
I was bored, and the only way that I could fill up my free time was with TV. Despite the large stack of books that were on my bedside table every night, I chose TV.
I was wasting my time and starting to get fed up with it. While the people I looked up to were writing books, creating incredible content, working on their business, I was laughing at Joey eating jam for the billionth time. …
And what you can do about it.
Breakups suck.
There’s no doubt about it. They’re uncomfortable, sad, and unless you’re leaving a toxic relationship, you almost always have that pit in your stomach.
The one that reminds you that you have to start all over again.
The idea of starting over again can be a good thing; it means you’ve identified what isn’t working for you.
However, if you feel like you’ve been starting over quite a bit lately, and you’re frustrated because you can’t figure out why every “good” relationship in your life ends up ending, then it’s time to dig a little bit deeper.
Here are 3 potential reasons why your relationships keep failing and what you can do about it. …
Start putting the phone down and picking wisdom up.
Have you ever wondered why it’s so easy for other people to be productive?Have you ever felt motivated to do certain things, only to have that drive dry out within a few days? Have you ever felt discouraged or frustrated when the people around you discuss their goals and how they’ve read 75 books and wrote 9 on top of maintaining a healthy body? Meanwhile, you’re still struggling with the third chapter of the book you’ve been trying to read for the last 2 months?
If you’ve answered yes to all of those, you’re in the right place. In an article written by Lisa Feldman Barrett for The New York Times, she says that you tend to feel tired and frustrated when you increase activity in your brain. …
