Don’t Listen To The Media When It Comes To Rachel Hollis

let’s clear the air on a few things

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I’m not one to stir up trouble. I like to write, read, and do my own thing. However, I came across this article about Rachel Hollis by Laura Turner.

“Girl, Wash Your Face” Is A Massive Bestseller With A Dark Message

Are you kidding me? I asked

First off, I was intrigued because I’ve read Girl, Wash Your Face multiple times, and have never thought it to give off a negative message.

Rachel Hollis is an inspirational and motivational speaker. She helps women pursue the life of their dreams by TELLING them how she pursued hers.

I found several flaws in this article but will only list a few. I’m not trying to be here all day.

“In one anecdote about the power of setting goals, Hollis recounts her obsession with buying a Louis Vuitton Speedy bag, which costs a thousand dollars. “I wanted it because it represented the kind of woman I dreamed of becoming,” she wrote. The day she got her first $10,000 consulting check, Hollis drove to the Louis Vuitton store at the Beverly Center and walked out with her bag.

“Hollis makes no attempt to interrogate her desire for an expensive designer bag here, just as there is no effort to interrogate her desire to own a vacation home in Hawaii by the time she’s 40. “Honestly, I think it’s kinda shameful and not something to be proud of,” said Amber Cessac, a 32-year-old mother of five in Austin. The book caught Cessac’s eye at a local Target, and she found a few “nuggets of inspiration” in it. But she was turned off by what she saw as Hollis’s constant push for bigger and more expensive things. “She just comes off as so incredibly tone-deaf,” Cessac said.”

Excuse me but where is the issue?

What’s the problem with wanting a nice bag?

What’s the problem with working hard in order to be able to afford that bag?

Look, Laura, there is nothing wrong with wanting materialistic things in life. If you prefer to live a life of small means, then kudos to you.

Also, Amber, I know you’re a mother of 5 in Texas, and kudos to you for that. I think being a mommy is great. So does Rachel, did you by chance read her book about how she has 3 amazing boys and a daughter? They often vacation in Hawaii.

I understand you don’t appreciate or like her goals of owning a vacation home in Hawaii, perhaps you can’t see yourself owning one so anybody who has the potential of fulfilling that sort of dream, sort of makes you feel… hurt. I get it. Some people dream big, some people don’t. You shouldn’t make anyone feel guilty for dreaming big.

Moving on.

“In a chapter of Girl, Wash Your Face about her “emotional eating” and desire to lose weight, Hollis warns the reader, “This is where I should tell you that I am worthy and loved as I am. This is absolutely true, but that’s not where I’m headed with this chapter.” For the next several pages, she continues to shame fat people: “Humans were not made to be out of shape and severely overweight. You can choose to continue to abuse your body because it’s all you know … You can choose to settle for a half-lived life because you don’t even know there’s another way … But please, please stop making excuses for the whys.”

Here Rachel talks about emotional eating and her experiences. HER experiences. Then she talks about health and how people SHOULD try their best to be healthy.

Listen, her mission is to help people become their best selves.

Being your best self entails being healthy.

Health is ESSENTIAL.

I’m sick and tired of it being this controversial topic. There’s nothing wrong with eating out, eating cookies, eating sweets, but there IS something wrong if you’re a diabetic because you eat fried foods every day and you eat because you’re depressed.

Sorry to break it to you Laura, but I think her writing those things roughed you up not because they’re incorrect, but because they’re straight up and blunt.

People don’t always like hearing the truth.

“Yet, according to Hollis, we shouldn’t respect women who don’t stick with their diets because we cannot rely on them to keep their word. She imbues fatness with the shame of moral failure and demeans women who struggle to — or do not want to — lose weight. This is perhaps the clearest encapsulation of the cruelty baked into Hollis’s philosophy. But it’s certainly not the only example.”

“Imbues fatness with the shame of moral failure and demeans women who struggle to or do not want to lose weight.”

Laura, that was a well-written sentence. Well written sentences can sound pretty but the message you’re conveying is silly. Nowhere does Rachel Hollis say, “guys, don’t respect women who can’t stick to their diets.”

This does raise a really good question though…

Would you respect someone who says they are going to do something and they never follow through?

Diets don’t work, Rachel Hollis even points that out in her book. I highly recommend checking it out, Laura.

Being unhealthy is not something to be celebrated. Not being able to walk, or perform at your best because of weight problems is an issue that needs to be addressed.

How do you expect to be successful if you can’t take care of yourself?

I went through all of the comments to this article and all of them were negative, but not so much as a, “she’s wrong because she says so and so”

Instead, people wrote things like:

“It’s easy to write these things when you’re financially stable.”

Someone even wrote that they look at her as someone who only got to where she was because… “she married an executive.”

Guys, Rachel was well on her way to success prior to Dave. She is not a success BECAUSE of her husband. She is a success because she put in the damn work. Which is something I preach constantly in my articles.

There was one slightly positive comment.

“It is not Rachel Hollis’ job to fix the world’s injustices. She is doing her small part to provide encouragement and support to anyone who may be needing a small boost, and feels encouraged by her words. If you’re relying on her to fix systymic problems (or criticize her for not fixing them) then you’re missing the point, which is to take what you need from her inspiration and leave that which you don’t find helpful or encouraging.”

It’s true. It’s not her job to fix you or the problems with the world.

Rachel Hollis is simply one individual who took control of her life and decided to build something for herself and for her family. She gained major success, she went through ordeals, and she shares all of that in this book not to boast, not to be cruel and throw her success or her goals or desire in anyone’s face, (ahem AMBER) but to simply share things.

I got pretty worked up reading this article created by Laura Turner. I think it’s unfair to judge someone who is trying to better the world, and I think it’s even more unfair to judge one's goals. I don’t think it’s okay to be negative towards others based on their success. I genuinely feel like people who do this are envious.

Laura, you do you, continue writing for BuzzFeed and living your life. Let Rachel inspire millions of people every single day.

Also, Amber? Do your thing and don’t judge other people’s goals.

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