How do you make decisions?
One of my biggest challenges is being able to decide on something. I always somehow manage to find myself in a sort of middle-ground. I am Switzerland, if you will. This isn’t something that happens every now and then, this is a constant, on-going problem.
Question: Do I want tea or coffee?
Thought process: I don’t know, if I have coffee I’ll have energy, but I’ll also be jittery so I’ll just have tea, but tea doesn’t have that much caffeine so maybe I should have coffee, but it’s pretty late in the afternoon I don’t want to have trouble sleeping tonight, etc
Question: Do I want oatmeal or a breakfast sandwich?
Thought process: I don’t know, the weather is gloomy so oatmeal sounds nice and cozy, but an egg breakfast sandwich sounds so good, but I get bloated after having gluten so maybe I should stick to oatmeal, but what if their oatmeal is unsweetened? I don’t like when it isn’t sweetened, but what if it is and they put some sort of high carb sweetener in there and I won’t know about it? Shouldn’t risk it… but if I order a breakfast sandwich I might regret not having oatmeal, etc
Do I want to go to restaurant A or B on Friday night?
Thought process: Well, I’ve never been to restaurant A and I always say I should try new things, but if I go to restaurant A and I don’t like it I will regret not going to restaurant B and then I’ll have to wait until the next time we go out to enjoy myself again, but if I go to restaurant B I will regret not trying restaurant A because it looks so nice in there and the food looks amazing… I don’t have anything to wear to restaurant A though so I should just go to restaurant B… but I can just dig something up it’s not a huge problem, what matters is enjoying myself… but I have been wanting to go to restaurant B again because the last time was so great… but this might be one of the few times I have the chance to go to restaurant A because it is for a special occasion… but I’ll be thinking of restaurant B when I am there…
See? I think about all the pros and cons but I never lean towards one option more than the other. This is forever my all time biggest problem. It leaks into my daily life and I find myself going to the grocery store to get just a couple of things but then I end up spending an unnecessary additional hour standing in an aisle trying to decide between two different organic versions of peanut butter. Crunchy or smooth? You tell me!
I can spend an entire week looking forward to going out on Friday night, and still wake up Friday morning, completely torn between the two options that were given to me. I can skim through the menu 20 times, and still be uncertain of my choice with the beef ragu or grilled chicken pasta. Do you have this issue? How do you go about it?
Do you lean more towards one?
What if you don’t?
If you are Switzerland, do you have the other person make the decision? What if they make one and suddenly you’re unhappy? Does that mean you should go with the other option?
What happens when you go through with one decision and you had an average time? Do you have an average time or do you try to make the best of it? Are you a fan of trying new things or do you stick to what you know and maintain the flow?
I definitely like things more than others, I have opinions, I have a particular taste, I can tell you what is good and what isn’t. I have goals, I have certain things I absolutely want/need to do. However, I think I get scared of missing out on something, there is a certain type of satisfaction and pleasure you get when you end up making the right decision. I feel that is what makes it so hard for me to land on one thing. Which is why I can’t pick. What are the tips and tricks you use to decide?
I want to know!