Raise your hand if the following has ever crossed your mind: “I’m not good enough.”
I’m raising both hands because I have been there, multiple times. And removing myself from the clenches of that thought is a daily practice.
I used to think that in order to achieve success in my life, I had to have a certain amount of… “enoughness.” Which is silly to think about because who on earth set the standard on how “enough” you have to be in order to achieve something?
Also, why on earth do I think I’m not enough? Why does somebody else overrank me? Why does my brain lead me to believe that my qualities and contributions aren’t as good as the other persons?
I want to clarify something for you. Your issues with not being “enough” is only an opinion somebody else put in your head. This opinion is stupid, unjust, irrational, and unfair. However, you have allowed this opinion to be the doctrine of your life.
Do you ever think about the limitations you have created in yourself because of the opinions of others?
I have, and the moment I started realizing that these vile thoughts were holding me back from pursuing the life of my dreams, I made the decision to change my mindset and quick. You can too, there’s zero reason for you to live a life that limits you simply because of someone else.
The first thing you need to realize is that while it may have been someone else who spoke negativity over your life that has caused you to not feel good enough, this could also stem from insecurities you have on a daily basis.
For instance, when I was little, my stepdad would call me overweight and tell me I would never get married because I was so fat.
Now, in my early 20s, I have had several insecurities about my weight. While the doctor, the scale, my family and friends all say I’m fit and healthy, I would constantly look at women with envy because my stomach wasn’t AS flat as theirs, or my legs weren’t as thin, etc.
His opinion of me would constantly ring in my ears.
I didn’t see a healthy person when I looked in the mirror, I saw a fat 13-year-old girl who cried into her pillow every night.
I’m not sharing this story for pity, I’m sharing this story because I want you to understand that nobody has the authority to say anything negative over your life.
Nobody can tell you who you can and can’t be, other people don’t get to tell you what you can or can’t have, the world doesn’t get to tell you that you shouldn’t try this or that, nobody can tell you whether or not you will achieve something, and certainly not based on your looks, knowledge or ability. Only YOU can make that decision.
You know you better than any other person on this planet. Only YOU should be making the decision on whether or not you know enough, or have the ability to do something. Oh, and looks? As harsh as this may sound, we’re going to have to get over it.
Notice how I said WE’RE.
I still struggle with physical appearance. A lot! It’s not something that can be fixed in a manner of minutes, days or even months. And that’s okay, take your time!
We’re constantly shown beautiful and perfect people on the media, we constantly see our flaws and imperfections and we make ourselves out to feel like we aren’t good enough simply because we’re comparing ourselves to things that we shouldn’t compare ourselves to.
For instance, why would you compare your body to swimsuit models?
Her JOB is to look a certain way. She gets PAID to look like that, and not to mention photoshop is a miracle worker.
Is your job being a swimsuit model? No? Okay then stop comparing.
When has there ever been a time in your life where comparing yourself has ever brought you any good?
Does it make you feel better about yourself?
Does it make you a better individual when you’re constantly thinking, “she has a flat stomach, she looks so good in this and I look like a donkey, wow if only I could be like that…. etc”
If you are constantly living in a mental state that makes you feel unqualified, or not good enough, you are never going to get any better. This state of mind will ONLY drag you down and make you feel worst.
The way you look does not determine your future.
The opinions other people have told you does not determine your future.
Your past does not determine your future
You determine your future.
Anytime those negative thoughts begin to creep back into your head, this is what you gotta do.
Anytime you feel lacking in an area, fight back with the truth and affirmations.
You don’t understand something?
So what? You can learn it. Sure, you’ll struggle at first but eventually — you’ll catch on. You always do.
You don’t think you’re fit enough?
You are! Did you not have a good training session today? Didn’t have time? Take a walk. Make the effort to include 30 minutes of movement every day.
You don’t think you can build a business? You can do anything you set your mind to. You can become a self-made entrepreneur. You can become a success. You can do what you want. As long as you put in the effort, the time, and don’t make excuses.
A little exercise that you can do is begin journaling every morning, or whenever you can find 5–10 minutes. Start listing off all of the things that bother you, frustrate you, and change them. Write down your goals, your aspirations, and begin writing them as if they have already happened.
These are some of the things that I write daily:
I AM a New York Times Best Selling Author
I AM running a successful business that provides value and worth to people
I AM an incredible girlfriend
I have a beautiful vacation home in Hawaii
I took my mother to Paris for the first time and she loved it
I do this every morning to instill these positives into my brain. I want to remind myself who I am and what my true purpose is. This gives me intention, it allows me to speak powerful powerful words over myself and my life and it provides me with a sense of direction.
Visualize your highest self and then start showing up as her.
Also, you ARE good enough.